Bitch about it or do something about it

Beautiful saturday in Nashville Tennessee. I’m jogging and I’m under influence of…endorphins. When endorphins kick in, they always stimulate my thinking like nothing else.

Here are some thoughts I had while jogging.

There is a gap between where we are and where we want to be. Let’s call it a gap between two points. Point A and point B. Point A is where we are. Point B is where we want to be. Point B is an idea in our mind. It is our imagination of being in a different place, doing different things than what we are doing at the moment.

Once we realize that there is a gap between A and B funny things happen to people.

At this point we have 3 choices.

Choice NO1: Killing our dream

We kill our dream. We exterminate Point B from our mind. We blow up Point B with a mental dynamite. We cut Point B with mental shredder so we can not see it anymore. We start adopting little lies like: Be happy with what you have. Be grateful. Present moment is all that matters. Sunsets, rainbows and little things are all we need. And we become masters of present moment happiness. We read present moment books. Burn present moment candles from Bath & Body Works, read little present moment Zen books and do a little present moment meditation or lot’s of present moment drinking. The dream is dead. Long live present moment.

Choice NO2: Bitching and blaming

Or we are fully aware that point B exists and we kind of like to think about it. We think about our idea of how life could be, often. It becomes our obsession. Thinking about point B is what we do. Quickly we become bitter and disillusioned, because we realize that it is just a dream. It is just an idea. We will never experience it, because ideas are for dreaming not doing. We will weep into our pillows at the end of the day, unable and defeated, watching our idea in our mind. And we will notice, that the gap between point A and point B is still there. In fact it is even bigger now because now we have the proof of our inability to act.

And there is something else that happens. We begin to see the reasons for our inaction. We realize that we are in a wrong neighborhood, wrong country, wrong profession. We realize we have wrong friends, not enough talents, not enough brains. The list goes on and on and it never ends. The list of our imaginary limitations is getting longer and longer. And we become masters of limitations living the life of quiet desperation and become experts in minor things.

Choice NO3: Going for it

We notice an interesting thing. We notice that some people somehow are always able to close the gap and move from point A to point B. We become curious about it. We ask: How did they do it. Can I do something like that as well. How? Is it easy to get to point B? No. Am I willing to pay the price? What should I do to get to point B? In what sequence? Is timing important? How long will it take? Am I willing to put in that time? What should I learn to get there? Who knows the answers? How can I find the answers? What can I do now to start moving to point B? How, when, where, who, with whom, how often, how many times?

What choice will you make?

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