Are you happy or fulfilled?


Have you ever thought why some people have fun in life and others don’t, or at least not as much as they would like?

Here is a biggie. Life to me is not about having fun as media would like us to believe. Life is not about being happy neither. You get happiness with a combination of a $12.99 Cabernet and a beautiful sunset. Happiness is cheap. It is easily available at any time.

Fulfillment is another story. Fulfillment takes great thinking, direction, focused action, a goal.

I talk to people and they tell me: I just want to have fun. OK, go for it.

But the truth is they don’t want to have fun. They want meaning and fulfillment. And that is precious.

In ancient Rome Caesars controlled the masses by continuously giving them two things: bread and games (like watching gladiators in Coliseum). The masses were instantaneously happy, they had full stomachs and entertainment. Were they fulfilled? No, they were happy.

So when someone wants you to just have fun or just be happy, stop and think:)

Happiness is cheap.

Have direction, focus and goals. Go for fulfillment.

Do you agree with me? Leave your comment below.

Love to all.

Derek

6 Comments on Are you happy or fulfilled?

  1. I do and I don’t. I think fulfillment is the primary goal, and that takes a lot of work. Enjoyable work, maybe, but work nonetheless.

    I do think it’s important to make room for happiness too though. Esp now, when peopel seem SO focused on their goals and achievements, they have a hard time making room for the simple pleasures.

    As Julia Child said, “Moderation in all things, including moderation.” :)

  2. Hi Jen,
    Thanks for stopping by. You’re right. I often have hard time with the concept of simple pleasures. Maybe because they are not challenging and not stimulating?
    I also realize that often acting out of comfort zone may not feel comfortable (happy) but yet, it somehow feels right.
    OK, maybe you are right on simple pleasures, I’ll think about it:)

  3. Hi Derek:
    I liked what you had to say about “SETTING GOALS” & “TAKING ACTION”. I think it so important to take the first step toward whatever IT is we want to do. I am not sure why sometimes that first step is So So hard to take, but can assure anyone out there that it is the only way we’ll ever reach our goals. Thanks for taking the time to post and many thanks for your thoughts.
    Cheers,
    Connie Williams/Nashville, TN

  4. Thank you Connie,
    I agree that taking the first step is crucial. I believe that taking the first step is often difficult because achieving a goal requires stepping out of our comfort zone. In other words, we have to do unfamiliar stuff, go to unknown places, meet new people and produce new behaviors.
    That aversion to unknown and clinging to familiar is at the root of no or low growth.
    I’ve checked your real estate blog. It’s fun.
    Derek
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  5. As always Derek making me think. My wife and I have talked about this in a bit different terms. What we looked at was happy vs. satisfied. For instance I am always happy, but never satisfied. If I was, then I wouldn’t have any reason to continue on. I think the same can be said with fulfillment.

  6. Hi Robert,
    I think there is always a built in gap between where we are and where we want to be. And yes, that’s exactly the reason for life to continue and for growth and for learning to occur.
    That gap is where our journey happens. The challenge is to really think hard about where are we heading.
    I love simple pleasures, like Jen Gresham (above) has mentioned, but I love grand, crazy-big dreams even more.
    So help me God to not to stop at simple pleasures but test the limits of possibility. That’s what I live for, baby.
    Dissatisfaction won’t kill us, but it can make us stretch for new lands.

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