Do You Like Your Mother-In-Law?

Gotcha. I was thinking about a catchy headline. And I thought this one is catchy enough;)

The goal was just to bring you here. But the post will have nothing to do with the headline. Absolutely nothing! Well…maybe not.

The post will deal with the ever exciting subject of: How In The World Do You Make Decisions?

Do you decide emotionally? Or, you are a cold-calculating SOB, allowing for no emotion in your decisions. Do you look at the Joneses? Or your siblings? Do you ask yourself: What would Jesus do? Or you prefer: What would Richard Branson do?

Maybe you make decisions on a whim, at lightning speed. Or you agonize over your choices for months?

Do you decide your present and future actions based on how safe you will be, or how much adventure you will experience?

Do you base your decisions based on money, power, sex?


Who do you look up for answers?

Do you Google, before you decide?

Do you do a lot of research before deciding or hop off the cliff and hope for the best?

Do you ask your mother-in-law? (A-ha, surprise, surprise:)

Here is my challenge to you. How In The Holy World Do You Decide? Based On What?

Comment below. This is going to be an interesting discussion. I can feel it already.

14 Comments on Do You Like Your Mother-In-Law?

  1. Very simple
    1. Is it going to make me happy not necessarily instant gratification kind of way but in the long run of my life
    2. Is the risk worth the reward
    3. And last buy certainly not least I ask if I wake up in the morning am I going to go “WTF did I just do?”

    If the answers are Yes, Yes, and No I do it and if it isn’t I don’t THE END!

    • Hi Nicole,
      Thank you for your awesome comment. I’m excited about this post, because, I think, all of us will learn a lot from all the great comments like yours!
      I REALLY like your long term thinking criteria. This is, I believe, a measure of your true wisdom. Risk vs reward is good thinking too. And number 3 is valuable as well.
      Here is one of mine: Do I consider, what I’m about to do, super-important and meaningful to me? (just one of my criteria)
      Good stuff.
      Thank you so much Nicole.
      Derek Potocki recently posted..7 ways to avoid herd mentalityMy Profile

  2. One technique that has helped me is to look at how my decisions today will effect my future.

    By taking a long term view in my decision making I can make better decisions in the now.

    I always ask myself “How does this decision relate to my goals?” “Which choice will move me closer to my goals?”

    That is why I am quitting my day job, it isn’t moving me towards my long term goals.
    Daniel M. Wood recently posted..How to Find the Right Mindset to Succeed With Time ManagementMy Profile

    • Thank you Daniel,
      I believe, this is one of my best posts, because I’m actually learning something new instead of preaching:)
      And your comment is a great contribution, man. I like the long term consequences of your decisions. I like aligning your decisions with your goals. That really rocks (I allow myself to be a bit biased here, since I blog about goal-achieving lifestyle).
      Quitting your job to spring toward your LTGs. Man, you have guts. I admire that the most!!!!!!
      Derek Potocki recently posted..Don’t drop your goal half wayMy Profile

  3. I laughed out loud when I read your title Derek.

    And, I loved your post. Your questions are fantastic! And fun. And true. And powerfully thought provoking… like being safe vs. being on an adventure. Hmmm. That’s a good one.

    One of the first things I look at before making a decision, “Am I being sold something?” And, if so, “why”?

    I think it’s important to be able to say “No.” it’s far more difficult than saying yes. I rarely agonize over decisions.

    I ask myself, “Can I make this work?” And, who do I need to have on my team? If I’m going to play all out, then I want to know who’s on the team. Being a lone ranger is, well, not cool.

    Have you heard this quote? “People say I’m indecisive, but I don’t know about that.” – George Bush


    Excellent, fun post Derek. You’ve done it again.


    btw- Asking my mother in law about anything is sure path to irritation. She and I do not think alike. Mary still lives in the industrial age. Very old school.

    p.p.s. I love Daniel’s question: ““How does this decision relate to my goals?”
    Theresa Bradley-Banta recently posted..Being Right Part II. Maybe I’ll Get it Right This Time, HahaMy Profile

    • Thank you Theresa,
      Have you named Jack Blue yet?
      Let’s not be too hard on our mother-in laws:)
      Anthony Robbins says that we always oscillate between two polarities: the need for certainty and the need for uncertainty. I believe that he has a good point.
      I like your “Am I being sold something?” and “Why”.
      But really powerful is: “Who’s going to be on my team?” I believe in my need to be self-sufficient I usually greatly diminish my progress.
      I’m going to remember to incorporate these questions into my decision -making process.
      Derek Potocki recently posted..Don’t drop your goal half wayMy Profile

  4. No name yet… now we’re thinking Rocky.

    About my mother-in-law? She’s a doll. We just don’t agree on everything. Like politics? Oh. Or having a green planet? Things like that. We just talk about nice safe stuff. You know?

    I’ll have to think about the need for uncertainty. What does that mean? I must be the polar opposite. Seriously, I’m not sure why we would want uncertainty. What are your thoughts?

    Theresa Bradley-Banta recently posted..Being Right Part II. Maybe I’ll Get it Right This Time, HahaMy Profile

  5. You’re a sneaky Pete, Derek!

    “The goal was just to bring you here.” And rumor has it you’re pretty good with the goals ‘thing’! Actually, I hear you’ve got it wired. :)

    Here’s my decision-making process in a nutshell …

    “If I act on impulse today, will I awaken tomorrow with a big bucket full of regrets?” (I don’t care much for regrets. They’re not pretty.)

    “Will the people I admire, love, and respect the most in life be proud of me for making the decision to … ?” (Comparable to having that little parrot sitting on your shoulder.)

    “Can I live without this (whatever) I’m about to purchase?” (Ten times out of ten, the answer is “Yes”.)

    P.S. I always Google first and emotional triggers do play a role in some of my decisions. :)
    Melanie Kissell @SoloMompreneur recently posted..This Is Not What I Signed Up ForMy Profile

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